If you’re anything like me, you probably spend most of your day taking care of everyone else — kids, family, appointments, the house, maybe even work. And by the end of the day, there’s nothing left for you.
I used to feel so guilty anytime I wanted a break. A nap, a moment to myself, even just five minutes of silence felt like I was “slacking” as a mom and caregiver. But here’s what I’ve learned (and I’m still learning every day): self-care isn’t selfish — it’s necessary.
When I don’t take care of myself, I’m running on empty. And when I’m running on empty, I can’t show up for the people I love the way I want to.
So here are a few things that have helped me find a better balance — without carrying all that guilt.
1. Change How You Think About Self-Care
Instead of seeing it as a “treat,” I remind myself it’s part of being a better caregiver. Taking care of me means I can take better care of my loved ones.
2. Start Small and Simple
I don’t always have time for big things, but I’ve learned small things count:
- Drinking a glass of water before coffee.
- Taking a short walk.
- Saying “no” when I’m stretched too thin.
- Listening to music while I clean.
These little choices remind me that I matter too.
3. Ditch the Guilt
This one is hard, but I keep asking myself: Would I want my child (or the person I care for) to feel guilty for resting? The answer is always no. So why should I hold myself to a harsher standard?
4. Lean on Your People
I’ve learned to ask for help when I need it — from family, friends, and even online support groups. Just talking to someone who “gets it” can be such a relief.
5. Use Free Resources
There are so many free tools and programs out there to help caregivers recharge. I’ll be sharing some of my favorite ones in my next post, because I know how much they’ve helped me.
From My Heart to Yours
If you’re reading this and you’re exhausted, I want you to hear me: you deserve rest too. You are not failing your loved ones when you take care of yourself. In fact, you’re giving them the best version of you.
So let’s make a promise — no more guilt. Just grace.
With love,
Hirah 💜
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Today’s Caregiver Affirmation:
“I give myself permission to rest. Caring for myself is caring for my loved ones.”
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