Welcome to Lesson One of ABA training for RBTs! Before we dive into teaching skills or setting expectations, the very first step is building a positive connection with your learner. We call this pairing—and it’s all about helping the child see you as a source of fun, comfort, and reinforcement.
What’s the Goal?
In this first stage, you’re not giving instructions or placing demands. Instead, you’re showing the child: “When I’m around, good things happen.” This makes future teaching so much easier because the learner will want to engage with you.
Step 1: Gather Reinforcers
Start by finding out what the child loves. This could be toys, snacks, music, sensory items, or even bubbles. Ask caregivers, observe what the child naturally gravitates toward, or offer a few choices and see what lights them up.
Step 2: Pair Yourself With the Fun
Once you know what they enjoy, make sure those things come through you. If they like bubbles, you hold the bubbles and blow them. If they like an iPad game, you turn it on and join in. The key is: the good stuff is connected to you.
Step 3: No Demands Yet
This part is important—avoid asking the child to do anything. No “sit down,” no “say this,” no “give me that.” Right now, we’re just building trust and positivity. Think of it as making a new friend—you don’t start by giving orders.
Step 4: Follow Their Lead
Join in their play. If they’re lining up cars, you can line up a car too. If they’re humming, hum along gently. Show them that you’re interested in what they like.
Step 5: Reinforce Engagement
Anytime the child looks at you, smiles, or interacts—make it fun! Give them praise, hand over a favorite toy, or share in their excitement. The more positive the experience, the stronger your bond will be.
Taking Notes (Data Collection)
Keep track of what you notice:
- Which toys or activities did they love most?
- How close did they stay to you?
- Did they make eye contact, smile, or share with you?
This information helps you plan future sessions and know what motivates them best.
When to Move On
You’ll know you’ve succeeded in pairing when:
- The child approaches you willingly.
- They accept toys, snacks, or activities from you.
- You see relaxed, positive body language (smiling, giggling, calmness).
Once this happens, you’re ready to start gently introducing simple instructions in Lesson Two.
Remember: ABA starts with relationships. If the learner sees you as safe and fun, teaching becomes natural. Lesson One is less about “work” and more about connection.
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